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Why Do We Judge Others?

Lifestyle Dec 09, 2014

by Yvonne Sinniah

We Judge People On How They Look, Walk, Talk And Don't Talk

How often do we catch ourselves judging others or see others being judged harshly in conversation and gossip? Have you ever sat back and observed it all and thought about what it means to judge and to be judged? It helps to take a moment to really understand what those thoughts and feelings truly mean about ourselves and the world we choose to create around us.

Judging others is one way we judge ourselves

Your judgment of another’s traits or actions shows what you intrinsically wouldn’t accept within yourself. For example, when you see a parent yell at a child, you may have a disgusted feeling and think, “What a horrible parent.” Without understanding the context and the parent’s own situation, this superficial judgment is truly a reflection of your own deeper internal struggle. In other words, it’s a trigger.

You may have been yelled as a child and immediately known that you would never do the same. So you judge others harshly for this behaviour. When someone else causes you to feel judgmental, pay attention to why you’re triggered and try to understand why you have these feelings. The answer is always much deeper than you realize at first.

Judging others strokes the ego

When someone spreads gossip and negative stereotypes, this negativity more than often stems from a place of insecurity and a need to elevate their own status and ego.

When people join in and agree with the judgment, even though their purpose is group bonding, they further perpetuate and condone the individual’s judgment of others.

Notice when you judge others simply to feel good about yourself. Change your pattern of thinking to more positive compassion and empathy for that individual. This technique will require your awareness of your ego. Park it to the side to see a person from a more objective space, leading to a better path to your own fulfillment.

Judging others is a form of jealousy

You’ll notice a bit of a theme here. When you feel like judging someone else, it indicates a trigger deeper within you.

Many times, judging someone more successful stems from a feeling of inadequacy. Negative feelings of not achieving your own goals and dreams can cause you to find fault in an individual that you identify as more successful. This finger pointing just allows you to temporarily avoid the areas of life that you really want to improve.

So, my best advice is to take the time to focus on yourself and fulfilling your own goals and dreams. Stop judging yourself so harshly and begin your own journey to success. Leave others on their own paths to happiness.

If you have ever been judged, you know how it feels. It hurts. Be conscious when you judge others and find ways to redirect your thinking to enable more positivity in your life and in the lives of others.

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Yvonne Sinniah

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Yvonne Sinniah (@YvonneSinniah) is a Relations Advisor and inspirational speaker focusing on helping individuals achieve success in personal and professional environments. focusing on helping individuals achieve success in personal and professional environments. She is on a mission to meet a nee...

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